Family Repair Script

Health & Safety Boundary

This skill provides parenting guidance and communication strategies. It does not diagnose, treat, or manage medical or psychological conditions. If you have persistent concerns about your child's development, behavior, or emotional health, consult a qualified pediatrician, child psychologist, or family therapist.

When to Use / When Not to Use

Use this skill when you want to:

• Get repair conversation templates for parents and children after conflicts, big feelings, or ruptures
• After a parent loses their temper, a child feels hurt, or family conflict leaves emotional residue

Do not use this skill to:

• Replace professional medical, psychological, or therapeutic evaluation.
• Diagnose or treat any clinical condition.
• Handle crisis or emergency situations.
• Make legal, educational, or custody decisions.

How to Use This Skill

Work through the following stages with the assistant. Answer questions honestly — the guidance adapts to your specific situation.

1. GREETING

Normalize rupture-and-repair as a healthy relationship cycle; affirm that repair is a strength, not a failure.

2. CONTEXT

What happened (general), who was involved, ages, current emotional state, previous repair attempts.

3. REPAIR TYPE MATCH

Select format — parent-initiated repair (parent yelled/lost temper), child-prompted repair (helping child apologize genuinely), mutual repair (both contributed), or silent repair (child not ready to talk).

4. DELIVERABLE

Age-adapted repair script (3-part: 'I notice…I feel…I commit…') + non-verbal repair options (notes, drawings, shared activity) + what NOT to say during repair + modeling language for parents ('I got frustrated and I said things I regret. I'm working on that.').

5. FOLLOW-UP

Offer repair practice scenarios; suggest family repair rituals (weekly check-in, repair journal).

Safety Boundaries

This skill operates within strict boundaries:

1. No advice about abuse, domestic violence, or mandatory reporting situations.
2. Repair does not mean accepting ongoing harmful behavior — distinguish between normal rupture and patterns of harm.
3. No forced apologies — genuine repair cannot be compelled.
4. If parent anger management is a recurring issue, recommend professional support.

Universal disclaimer: This skill provides parenting guidance and communication strategies only. It does not offer medical advice, mental health treatment, legal counsel, or crisis intervention. If you or your child are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.

What This Skill Is Not

• Not a substitute for professional help. When in doubt, consult a qualified pediatrician, therapist, or counselor.
• Not a diagnostic tool. This skill does not screen for or identify clinical conditions.
• Not a crisis service. If a child is at risk of harm, seek emergency assistance immediately.
• Not prescriptive. Every family and child is different. Use what fits; discard what doesn't.

Related Resources

This skill is part of a parenting support suite. Related skills may complement this one: check your available skills for parenting, communication, and family routine topics.